Shrinking isn’t your only option.
Therapy for people who feel like they’re too much, not enough, and quietly carry more than anyone realizes.
Danielle Konsky, LMHC, Ed.M.
Hi, I’m Danielle.
Many of the people I work with appear as though they are holding everything together. They are thoughtful, self-aware, and highly attuned to others. Beneath that competence, however, there is exhaustion, shame, and a persistent inner voice that rarely softens.
If you feel overwhelmed by anxiety, burdened by body shame, caught in cycles of self-criticism, or fatigued by the effort of being a more acceptable version of yourself, you are far from alone. My work centers on helping people untangle from unrealistic expectations and reconnect with a steadier, more aligned sense of self.
Along with my clients, I co-create a therapeutic space where people leave feeling more connected to their bodies and their internal experience, as though they have finally exhaled from an uncomfortably deep breath. My approach combines steadiness and warmth with humor and humanity. Therapy can hold depth without always becoming heavy, and growth does not respond to harshness.
Our work focuses on identifying what no longer serves you and creating room for choices that reflect your values, your needs, and your capacity for change.
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Individual Therapy
Individual therapy provides a consistent and grounded space to slow down and understand what continues to keep you stuck.
Many of the individuals I work with experience anxiety, difficulty setting boundaries, persistent self-criticism, or body shame. Some are navigating eating disorders or disordered eating patterns. Others are working through trauma that still influences how they feel, relate, and function in daily life. Many describe feeling disconnected from their values and uncertain about how to move forward in a way that feels authentic.
In our sessions, we explore how these patterns developed and what they were originally protecting. We focus on increasing awareness, strengthening choice, and responding differently in the present. The work is intentional and collaborative, guided by your goals and your pace.
Eating Disorder and Body Image Therapy
Eating disorder and body image treatment requires both behavioral and emotional support. It involves addressing patterns around food while also understanding the deeper beliefs that sustain them.
Our work centers on reducing shame, challenging rigid beliefs about food and worth, and increasing your ability to tolerate discomfort without turning against yourself. We examine the moral language often attached to eating and work to separate food from identity. The goal is to build a relationship with your body that feels less adversarial and more stable.
This process is not about forcing body positivity. It is about decreasing internal conflict and cultivating neutrality, compassion, and trust.
Trauma Therapy
Trauma therapy helps you understand why your logical understanding and emotional reactions do not always align.
We examine how early experiences shaped your nervous system and the protective strategies that developed in response. Treatment focuses on increasing stability, reducing reactivity, and strengthening your capacity to remain present during distress. Safety is prioritized at every stage of the process, and intensity is introduced only when your system is ready.
This is steady and relational work that respects the intelligence of your adaptations while supporting meaningful change.
Group Therapy
Group therapy offers an opportunity to experience connection in a different way.
For individuals working through shame, relational anxiety, or body image concerns, group can provide a powerful corrective experience. It allows you to be seen and heard in real time without needing to minimize yourself or withdraw.
Individual Supervision
I offer individual supervision for clinicians who are seeking a thoughtful, steady space to deepen their clinical work. Supervision with me is collaborative and reflective, with attention to both skill development and the internal experience of being a therapist.
Our work may focus on case conceptualization, strengthening clinical interventions, navigating complex presentations such as eating disorders and trauma, or developing greater confidence in your therapeutic voice. We also attend to countertransference, burnout, and the emotional weight that can come with this profession.
My approach to supervision mirrors my clinical style. It is structured yet flexible, direct yet supportive. The goal is not to mold you into a particular type of therapist, but to help you refine your thinking, trust your instincts, and practice with greater clarity and integrity.
Workshops and Trainings
I provide workshops and trainings for clinicians, schools, and organizations seeking deeper understanding around topics such as eating disorders, body image, trauma, nervous system regulation, and shame-informed care.
My trainings combine clinical depth with practical application. Participants leave with clear frameworks, concrete tools, and a stronger grasp of how theory translates into real-world practice. I aim to create learning environments that are intellectually rigorous while also grounded and accessible.
Each workshop can be tailored to the needs of your team or organization. If you are interested in bringing a training to your group, I welcome a conversation about what would be most useful and impactful for your setting.
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My approach blends structure with softness. I bring warmth and clarity into the room, along with humor when it feels supportive and appropriate. It is not the kind of humor that minimizes pain, but the kind that makes space for relief. Therapy can be meaningful and direct without feeling heavy at all times.
Clients often share that they leave sessions feeling more connected to their bodies and less alone in what they are carrying. That sense of steadiness and connection is central to my work.
I have advanced training in eating disorder treatment and practice through a Health at Every Size and body-liberation framework. I work with individuals navigating disordered eating, relationship anxiety, identity concerns, executive dysfunction, depression, and the lingering impact of trauma.
I also have extensive experience working with trauma, PTSD, personality disorders, and complex trauma. I understand and respect how early experiences shape the nervous system and continue to influence relationships, self-perception, and daily functioning long after the original events have passed.
I believe that pain does not need to be compared in order to be valid. Many of the patterns you may view as flaws were once intelligent adaptations that helped you survive. Healing takes place in relationship, through being seen and understood in a way that feels steady and safe.
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A significant number of the people I work with are not accustomed to being centered.
Speaking about themselves can feel uncomfortable or even wrong. They have learned to scan the room, anticipate the needs of others, and manage other people’s emotions while quietly overriding their own.
In therapy, we begin by creating enough safety for your internal experience to come into focus. We work to distinguish you from your overprotective nervous system so that its responses no longer dictate every decision. Rather than attempting to silence the inner critic, we understand its role and reduce its control. We examine the timelines and expectations that suggest you should be further along, more accomplished, or different by now, and we evaluate whether those standards are truly yours. The pace of our work is intentional and sustainable, guided by your capacity rather than external pressure.
This process is not about “fixing” you. It is about recognizing how you adapted in order to survive and determining which of those adaptations continue to serve you.
My work is grounded in the understanding that healing often involves unlearning harmful societal messages about bodies, productivity, worth, and identity.
Therapy becomes a place to develop a way of living that is less organized around shame and more aligned with your values, your needs, and your sense of self.
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I primarily use Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT. ACT focuses on changing your relationship to your thoughts rather than attempting to eliminate them. Instead of fighting anxiety, urges, or self-critical thinking, we examine how you respond to those experiences. This work strengthens psychological flexibility and supports you in moving toward what matters to you, even when discomfort is present.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy, or DBT, also informs much of my approach. DBT provides practical, evidence-based tools for navigating intense emotions and high-stress moments. You learn how to regulate emotional responses, tolerate distress, and respond to urges with greater awareness. The emphasis is on building stability and self-trust, not achieving perfection.
I also integrate Internal Family Systems, or IFS. IFS helps you understand the different parts of yourself, particularly the ones that developed to protect you. Rather than viewing certain behaviors as failures, we explore the role they once served. This process fosters internal compassion and reduces the ongoing sense of inner conflict.
Across all of these approaches, the goal remains consistent. The work is centered on helping you build a life that feels authentic, steady, and less organized around shame.
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Therapy with me is collaborative. You are the expert on your own experience, and my role is to help you clarify your values and support you in living in alignment with them.
You can expect warmth that is genuine and steady, paired with clarity and directness. I offer structure without rigidity and humor that supports reflection rather than minimizing what you are carrying.
Sessions are a space where complexity is welcomed and where multiple emotions can exist at the same time without becoming overwhelming.
You were never broken. The patterns you developed made sense in the context of your experiences. Therapy becomes an opportunity to examine those adaptations with care and intention, and to decide which ones continue to serve you and which ones you are ready to release.
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B.A. in Psychology and Human and Social Development from University of Miami
M.A. and EdM in Mental Health Counseling from Teachers College, Columbia University
Advanced Training in Eating Disorders
“Enhancing Eating Disorder Treatment in Athletes: A Compassion Focused Approach to Movement” with Alsana
The Eating Disorder Center
The Renfrew Center for Eating Disorders
Monte Nido (Creating Connections, Responding Responsibly: Managing Emotional/Behavioral Dysregulation in Clients)
Educated in Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) and its vast Implications for the Eating Disorder Population
Not so “Atypical” Anorexia Nervosa: Clinical History, Diagnostic Considerations, and Treatment Approaches (Equip Academy)
Certifications
Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC)
Understanding the Diagnosis and Treatment of Somatic Disorders in Young Adults (CE Learning Systems LLC)
Member of the Tri-State Clinician Social (TSCS)
FAQs
What are your fees?
My full fee for a standard 45-minute individual session is $250. Sessions can be extended in 15-minute increments, with an additional $25 per 15 minutes. The maximum session length is 90 minutes.
A resource-based sliding scale is available, with rates as low as $150 for a 45-minute session. If cost is a concern, we can discuss options during a consultation.
Do you accept insurance?
I am an out-of-network provider. I can provide a monthly superbill that you may submit to your insurance company for potential reimbursement. I recommend contacting your insurance provider to ask about your out-of-network mental health benefits.
Where are sessions held?
I offer virtual sessions throughout the week. In-person sessions are available on Fridays in Greenpoint at 61 Greenpoint Avenue in the Pencilworks building.
Group therapy is held virtually.
What is the first session like?
The first session is an opportunity to understand what brings you to therapy and what you hope will feel different in your life. We will discuss your history, current concerns, and begin identifying goals. It is also a space for you to ask questions and determine whether working together feels like a good fit.
What ages do you work with?
I work with individuals ages 10 and up. When working with children and adolescents under 18, therapy is a collaborative process that includes appropriate family involvement. Caregivers are supported in understanding how to best help their child while also maintaining a space where the young person feels safe and respected.
What types of therapy do you provide?
I specialize in eating disorders, disordered eating, body image concerns, trauma, anxiety, self-criticism, and relational challenges. My work integrates Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and Internal Family Systems, alongside a trauma-informed and body-liberation framework.